Oftentimes, we project aspects of ourselves onto others. If this sounds like you, there is a 4-step process you can to do fix it. First, recognize what you are doing and how that affects you and the other person. Next, reframe things that you don’t like about yourself. For example, instead of being grumpy consider…
Everyone has one person in their lives who is toxic. Yet, there are ways to manage their influence. Observe what motivates these people and how their actions affect others. Also, be prepared. It’s important to be aware of how their tactics could affect you. Reassess your expectations for toxic people Resist the temptation to just see…
There are times when you need to hold a boundary with someone, but that isn’t easy. However, using empathy, you can create boundaries without alienating the other person. How to set boundaries well First, acknowledge the other person’s feelings or beliefs and then state how you feel. Use the “positive no” when needing set limits with…
Just as you clean out your closet and tidy the house in springtime, it helps to do the same for your relationships. When reassessing your relationships, there are several things to consider First, reflect on which relationships you see as unequal and how to create more balance. Be honest with yourself during this assessment. Let…
Facing a life problem can be draining, yet there are several ways you can cope. Consider often that life is temporary and that change is a constant. Tell yourself not to take the current issue so seriously. Think ahead, to a period when the problem has passed. Or, consider a time that existed before you were…
Increasingly, the Enneagram is being used as a tool by recruiters to screen candidates. However, this is not an appropriate use of the Enneagram. The Enneagram is meant to be a tool of self-discovery. When you take the personal desire out of the equation it is less effective. Second, people are more than their enneagram….
Toxic thinking can be a serious burden. Yet you can use mindfulness to cope. Sometimes toxic thinking originates from our own thinking Do you believe that you are not worthy or inadequate? At times those thoughts come from the outside but get stuck in your brain. What results? A constant chatter in your brain that is draining…
Depression is a common mental health condition found all over the world. Yet, there is still much stigma when it comes to getting treatment. Stereotypes about people who struggle with depression still exist For most people, these stereotypes start during childhood. People with depression may be seen as undisciplined or weak. Or, they are perceived…
Psychosocial stress is a form of threat assessment by your brain. It’s useful, but it can also cause problems. Your Body and Psychosocial Stress We all slip into psychosocial stress occasionally. This happens when we think there is a threat to things like our social standing or acceptance with others. Your body responds via biological…
Being a sensitive person can have its benefits, such as being a good listener or having empathy. However, it can be the source of major health problems too. People who are overly sensitive may struggle with anxiety. They have trouble managing stress. Sensitive people also have a hard time not holding on to negative thoughts….