Grief Fatigue: Why Mourning Can Leave You Feeling Drained
Grief is exhausting. Losing someone important takes a deep emotional toll on you. But beyond the sadness and despair, you may also feel physically, mentally, and spiritually drained. This is what we call grief fatigue, and it’s a lot more common than you think.
Understanding why grief leaves you exhausted can help you be kinder and more compassionate toward yourself as you navigate loss. Let’s explore why mourning is so draining on your mind, body, and soul and what you can do to regain energy and renewed peace of mind.
Signs of Grief Fatigue
Grief fatigue can show up in many ways. Some signs include:
- Feeling physically weak or constantly tired
- Struggling to focus or make decisions
- Experiencing headaches or body aches
- Lack of motivation for daily tasks
- Feeling emotionally numb or detached
- Sleeping too much or too little
- Changes in appetite
Though not everyone is impacted by grief in the same way, know that if you’re experiencing these symptoms, it’s normal. Grief fatigue is a natural response to loss.
Why Does Grief Cause Fatigue?
Grief is an emotion, yes—but it goes so much deeper than that and can affect your entire body. Here’s why it can make you feel drained:
- Emotional overload: The constant sadness, anxiety, or anger that accompanies grief wears you down.
- Physical stress: Grief triggers a stress response, increasing fatigue and decreasing energy.
- Sleep disruptions: Difficulty sleeping or excessive sleeping can leave you exhausted.
- Cognitive overwhelm: Grief contributes to forgetfulness, trouble concentrating, and decision fatigue.
- Social withdrawal: It’s common to isolate yourself when you’re grieving, and this can significantly reduce energy and motivation.
- Loss of routine: Grief disrupts daily habits, making everything feel that much harder.
How You Can Cope With Grief Fatigue
You may not be able to speed up the grieving process, but you can take steps to care for yourself along the way.
- Prioritize rest: Experiencing grief is hard work. Allow yourself extra rest without guilt. Listen to your body and take breaks when needed.
- Eat and stay hydrated: Loss of appetite is common, but your body needs fuel. Try to eat nourishing foods and drink plenty of water to keep your energy up.
- Exercise: Gentle movement, like stretching, walking, or yoga, can help reduce stress and fatigue.
- Accept support: Lean on friends, family, or a support group. Talking about your grief can lighten the emotional load and allow you to feel seen, heard, and supported in your time of need.
- Create small, meaningful routines: Having simple daily habits can bring a sense of stability. Start small, like making your bed or drinking your favorite tea at the same time each day.
- Be self-compassionate: You’re already going through a tough time. Grief is not a race. Some days will be harder than others. Give yourself grace and the permission to feel however you need to feel.
Know When It’s Time To Seek Help
Grief fatigue is normal, but if it becomes overwhelming and debilitating, professional support can help you work through it. Grief can also develop further into depression if left unattended. You may want to consider seeking help if:
- Your exhaustion is interfering with daily routines like work and running personal errands
- You feel stuck in a deep sadness or experience hopelessness for months
- You experience panic attacks or severe anxiety
- You have thoughts of self-harm or suicidal ideation
You do not have to go through this alone. Feeling better and breathing easy again is possible. If grief fatigue is weighing you down or affecting someone you love, please schedule an appointment to receive the unwavering support and guidance you deserve.