Grief Later In Life: How To Navigate Emotional Pain As You Age

Once you hit your 20s and beyond, loved ones start to pass more frequently. The simple reason behind this is that both you and your loved ones are aging. While coming to terms with this natural and inevitable part of life can be challenging, there are ways to soothe the accompanying unease and, at the very least, understand and accept this process. Here’s some insight into why this is so difficult and some tips for coping with mortality and the grief that comes upon us later in life. 

Death Is A Hard Pill To Swallow

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The hard truth is that everyone gets older, and everyone will eventually die. As human beings, we can take comfort in knowing that no one is exempt from this reality. Despite being aware of this fact, many of us struggle to come to terms with it. 

For instance, as individuals grow older and witness the passing of those around them, they may develop a constant concern about losing loved ones or may fear their own mortality. While these reactions to death and loss are natural, living in a perpetual state of fear is not conducive to a fulfilling life. Instead, we should treasure our time on this Earth and cherish the people we love while they are with us.

When Should I Consider Grief Counseling?

If you find yourself constantly worrying about these topics, you should consider grief counseling. That continuous fear can cause you to develop anxiety and even depression. In fact, grief is often linked to these two conditions. It’s best to try to tackle the issue sooner rather than later; you’ll have less emotional weight on you. 

There is No Time Limit On Grief

The famous saying states that “time heals all wounds,” but grief from death is entirely different. People around you may tell you to get over it or move on, but you lost someone dear to you. It’s okay to miss them. Think about them every day. The trick is not to let that sadness consume your entire life.

Honor Those Who Are Gone

One way of preserving someone’s memory in a positive manner is to think about the good times you had with them and to reminisce on those times often. This practice may cause you to shed tears, but this is a good thing, as it is therapeutic and cathartic to let these emotions out.

You can still Speak to Them

Do you have any of your loved ashes or maybe a personal item that they cherished? Consider putting those ashes into a locket or holding the item as you air out your feelings to them. Whether you believe in life after death or not, this is another excellent way to process your grief. It can also give you the feeling of remaining close to this person, even in death.

Keep a Record of Your Conversations

Journaling is another excellent exercise that helps process complex emotions. You can use the journal to communicate with that loved one. Keep letters addressed to the deceased in the journal, and you can look back on them when you feel the need to be close to them. 

Grief Should Never Define Your Life 

If nothing you attempt to soothe the pain works, get in contact with a professional grief counselor. Grief should never consume your life. The person you are grieving wouldn’t want that for you. While it is true that they are gone for the moment, they will never be forgotten and should be remembered in a healthy way. 

There is a positive way to grieve. 

If you would like to learn more about grief counseling and how to process grief effectively, feel free to contact me