One of the most difficult tasks for a couples therapist is being able to locate and gracefully point out when one partner in a relationship is stuck in a hypocritical bind. Perhaps they want unconditional love from their partner but are unwilling or unable to reciprocate. Or perhaps they become angry repeatedly and complain about their partner instead of looking at their own behavior and understanding how their own actions are contributing to the negative pattern. Once the hypocrisy is revealed, it is very challenging to point it out to a client without inflaming defensiveness or aggression.
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