Surrender

Do you feel stressed and burned out trying to achieve perfection? Perhaps it is time to surrender. Strategies for Surrender Surrender means finding acceptance with both yourself and where you are at in the moment.  Instead of trying to force a situation to occur, you surrender to where life is taking you. You can do…

How Perfectionism is Harmful

Research is finding that if you are a perfectionist you may be at higher risk for depression and anxiety. Perils of Perfectionism The research study, done by Psychological Bulletin, connected perfectionism as a trigger for other mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. In addition, perfectionism in the populations of Canadian, American, and British college…

Assessing Angry Couples

Assessment is helpful when working with a “hostile angry couple.” This can be done by looking at their motivations surrounding therapy. Assessing opportunity for change Motivated partners want change. They do homework assignments outside of sessions. They set goals. Unmotivated partners do not play an active role in therapy. Instead, they feel defensive. They feel blamed…

Mental Health Risks During the Holidays

Even though the holidays are supposed to be positive, there are several risk factors for your mental health. One issue is worrying about money due to holiday spending. Another is feeling lonely with no one to be with during the holidays. A third is the stress from extra social engagements to attend, which can be overwhelming. Consuming…

Alienation

Just about everybody in life will feel alienated from other people. But why? Feeling Like You Don’t Belong We feel alienated when we are rejected by others. This could be when we are kids on the playground or as adults. In fact, early rejection can have lasting effects. It makes it harder for people who…

How to Be Happy Again

Are you struggling with finding happiness after having depression? Consider these ideas: Habits for Increased Happiness First, allow yourself the time to feel sad. Second, begin to slowly start doing things that you once enjoyed. Break this up into small activities to make it easier and less exhausting. Celebrate the victories, even if they are little…

The Enneatype Six

The Enneatype Six is one of several emotional patterns. This one, in particular, is highlighted with anxiety. Sixes: Anxious Helpers People who are Enneatype Six experience worries focused on the worst-case scenarios. They also struggle with the belief that other people don’t care for them. This starts in childhood and can be carried on into…